The Scars Will Last Forever

My fiance and I argue every now and then, as all couples do, but this most previous argument was pretty bad. Now, most people, and some experts, say that if you can't disagree with one another the relationship will not work out as great as those who are able to disagree/argue. I find this very true. It all happened on Monday night. We had the day off from work together, spent the day relaxing and just enjoying each others company. She started getting tired, but I wasn't. That's where a lot of our arguments stem, me not being able to fall asleep at the same time she does. Well, the argument got really heated and I said a few things I probably shouldn't have while I was mad. I definitely should have waited until my head was cleared and I was calm.

The next day I'm surfing the net while she's at work and I come across this story "The Nail In The Fence." It really hit home. Later that night I told her about the story and apologized, sincerely. I couldn't take the pressure of knowing that she's probably scarred inside, even though when we woke up the morning after the fight, we weren't mad at each other. I knew she was still hurting inside...

Anyway, here's the story.(Click on the Title to visit the original site)

The Nail In The Fence

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down.

He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it; and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there." A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.